I’m back in Nashville this weekend, celebrating the wedding of someone pretty special. We’ve had fun hanging out in Nashville instead of in the suburbs where our parents live — it’s a pretty fun place!

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What’s So Scary about Smart Girls, by Nicholas Kristoff for the New York Times.

Not All Pastors Kids Are Christian. Sorry. by Jamie the Very Worst Missionary.

I Don’t Want to be Your White Savior, by Abby Norman.

Caris Adel’s series on Gays, AIDS, and the Church. First post here.

Penelope Trunk on working motherhood with What Does it Really Mean to Work Full Time?

4 thoughts on “Five [Awesome] Things I Read This Week, 5/17/2014

  • May 18, 2014 at 10:40 am
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    I might be a little biased, but I definitely agree – Nashville is wonderful!

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    • May 18, 2014 at 11:52 am
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      We are going out on the lake today an it is so warm! I’m about to have a whole different personality.

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  • May 18, 2014 at 3:11 pm
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    I confess, I only read 1,3, and 5, but wow were they well written and spot on! Even though #3 seemed to be written about Atlanta, I saw a lot of Nashville in it. I’m one of the people who lives in the suburbs (out of county even) for several reasons. I love my big yard, I want my child(ren) to go to good schools and not pay a small fortune for it, and I want to live in a low crime area. It also might be good to mention I grew up in the suburbs. My parents moved from Davidson county (Nashville is a metropolitan county for those who don’t know) when I was very small because the schools system was reorganizing school zones and my brother would be bused across the county (an hour +) each way the next school year to create some sort of balance, rather than attend the school whose bells you could hear from our house (and passing our grandparents home on the way to and from school each day). We moved to a county with a good school system, to a community whose origins lie in people moving out of the city to avoid integrated schools (that’s a whole other issue entirely). So, that’s where I’m comfortable. My husband grew up on the edge of Davidson county, in what used to be the county, and went to the magnet school in the middle of downtown, so we share a perspective on this, quiet living, good schools. We have friends and family who say they live in “up and coming” areas because they want to help the area and be part of the change. I have yet to understand how gentrification helps an area, aside from changing it completely, and very slowly, and pushing out the inhabitants altogether. They say as involved parents, they and their children will be part of helping the neighborhood schools (busing to balance isn’t the thing 30 years later), but that seems to be the white savior discussed, the savior that can’t save. Is it selfish that I dont want my son to be the smartest kid in the room? I want him to be challenged by his peers. I dont want him to be one of the few with involved, supportive parents who are able to help with his homework (should I add here in 8th grade I was the one helping my mom with her college algebra homework, not the other way around?). I want my child to be one of the status quo in his school, not the privileged few. Is that selfish too? I don’t feel my place or my skills are to save the masses, but to raise my son the best way I know how, and give him all the advantages of a good education. (Yet, my job, and my skills, are in nonprofit fundraising, so yes, I still have a bleeding heart.) This just hit a cord with me today. Thank you for sharing these!

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    • May 19, 2014 at 9:43 pm
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      It’s hard. It’s easy to talk and harder to act and even harder when it’s your kids who have to act instead of you. Thanks for sharing this — I think we’re doing the right thing by talking things through instead of all staying quietly where we already are, without the conversations.

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