Two new things

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It’s Easter weekend and I’m a little homesick — my holiday memories are jam packed with work and church work and in my heart all holiday songs are sung by my parents. We have new traditions now that we are grown, and I love them, but I miss the old things too.

To spread the love, I taught a coworker how to make the kind of ham that puts a ring on your finger, and I’m gearing up for some cooking and celebrating of my own. Both of H’s brothers are in town, a few favorite friends will join us on Sunday morning, and I’m taking a Good Friday vacation day. Which means that it’s the weekend right now and that is awesome.

And to spread the love even further, I have two photos to share with you. These photos show two firsts –

1. My first French 75 — new favorite cocktail made with gin, champagne, and lemon, and

2. My first viewing of the new statue of Rosa Parks inside the Capitol.

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Five [Awesome] Things I Read This Week: Gideon Edition

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This week marks the 50th Anniversary of Gideon, and while it is one of the most important cases in our society it is under-represented in American cultural conversations.  So I’m bringing it back.  Just like JT and sexiness.

The Basics:  Gideon v. Wainwright, a case decided by the Supreme Court on March 18, 1963, established the fundamental notion that any person accused of criminal behavior has a right to counsel even if he or she cannot afford counsel.

“The right of one charged with crime to counsel may not be deemed fundamental and essential to fair trials in some countries, but it is in ours. From the very beginning, our state and national constitutions and laws have laid great emphasis on procedural and substantive safeguards designed to assure fair trials before impartial tribunals in which every defendant stands equal before the law. This noble ideal cannot be realized if the poor man charged with crime has to face his accusers without a lawyer to assist him.”

Pretty convincing, right?

Okay, so now that you are as in love with the principles of fairness and justice as I am, now that you are thinking of naming your first child Gideon after a heroic man who stood for justice for himself and ended up ensuring justice for us all (not to mention that whole other Gideon character in the Bible, am I right?), let’s jump to our Five Things.

  1. The Atlantic published a great introductory piece that provides the history of Gideon, the resulting limitations on the right to counsel, and a charge to the American public:  “Either there is a right to counsel or there isn’t. And if there is such a right, we all have an obligation to ensure it is recognized — not just in the history books, and not just in a television movie, and not just in a dusty law book, but in the everyday lives of our fellow citizens.”
  2. Another great piece from The New York Times details how Gideon has been ignored (or worse) across many states, including one woman who sat in jail for eleven months before counsel was appointed to assist her.
  3. “Funding indigent defense isn’t funding criminals. Funding indigent defense isn’t paying incompetent lawyers to do nothing. It’s funding something far more important. It’s funding the protection of the Constitution,” says a blogger using the name “Gideon,” blogging over at A Public Defender.  He attributes the lack of funding and other failures of our justice system to people just not giving a shit about indigent defense.  And he’s funny.
  4. Lawyers have ethical obligations to be prepared, diligent, zealous, and more, but when many public defenders are over-worked and underpaid, does their lack of time lead to under-preparation and less-than-fair representation?  An examination of how different states and parties are responding to this office is over at the National Law Journal.
  5. Finally, a summary of remarks made by Supreme Court Justice Elena Kagan at an event honoring the 50th Anniversary of Gideon v. Wainwright at the Department of Justice this week, brought to us from The Blog of Legal Times (The BLT).  She indicates that an indigent (poor) client is not entitled to all the bells and whistles of a “Cadillac lawyer,” but certainly is entitled to “a Ford Taurus defense,” an attorney who can appropriately advise and represent the client’s interests.

Mid-March Update

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A friend requested more updates – so, this update post is dedicated to you, sir. A memorable gift, I’m sure. ;)

1. I started a new job on March 1st. It is technically a rotation and technically temporary, but we shall see about that. Already, it has so opened many doors and provided so many new opportunities.

2. I stopped being career depressed on March 2nd. This may or may not be tied to item number one.

3. I love the spring-looking weather. And I use the modifier here because, while beautiful in our nation’s capital, it is freezing cold.

4. I bought a new top that I am completely in love with. I’m wearing it right now!

5. March Madness began today but my heart just isn’t in it this year. Yet.

6. We were fourth place in trivia last night. Selected facts for your intellectual development: the Vatican has a best movies list and Schindler’s List is the newest film on it; the wheelbarrow was invented in China; vexillology is the study of flags.

7. I printed a 30-Days of Spring Cleaning plan but our apartment is so small I think I could do it all in about 8 hours. And I already cleaned out our pantry because I like it to look like the shelves at Target. It’s called “zoning.” Don’t judge.

8. We still have not heard back from H’s future employer about where we will be living, so no announcements yet. Hopefully soon — seriously, hopefully tomorrow because I’m an obsessive planner and if we don’t hear soon I might kill someone.

9. I’m posting this from my iPhone while commuting home and it is phone-blogging-awareness month at WordPress, so I’m not just multitasking but also joining a blogging revolution. Impressed much?

10. I just got 5 text messages about basketball in the last ten seconds. Oh lord…

Greatest Deal Ever (this is about makeup)

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As you probably will not remember, my awesome mom gifted me Laura Geller’s Baked Collection for Christmas.  And I fell completely in love with the foundation.  I mean the rest is all pretty sweet-tastic as well, but the foundation is KILLER.

It’s been a bit over three months and my sample-sized foundation started running out, so I headed over to Ulta to buy a replacement.  I did some internet research and discovered that the full-sized foundation was $33, which is honestly not so bad when the sample size lasted for 3 months and the foundation is literally the best ever.  I also noticed that there was a coffee-flavored kit for sale at Ulta, but I remained focused:  no marketing tricks for this girl.  I just needed the foundation, not some random samples of things I never wanted in the first place.  I’ve been around the block a time or two.  I know how these things work.

But they were out of my color.  And so, since I was there anyway, I walked over to check this fancy-schmancy kit out.  For only $6 more, you could get foundation, blush, highlighter, highlighter shading brush, eye shadow palette, and lip gloss.  And so I decided to give it a try.  It was super cute, and the packaging totally fooled H, who asked:  Are you seriously buying coffee from this ridiculous makeup store?  Why do they even sell coffee here?

002So I bought it, fully anticipating a mini-sized foundation that would last for another three months.  BUT WAIT:  It was actually a full-sized foundation.  AND a full-sized blush.  And a full-sized everything.  Check it out:

makeup kit insideThe blush, eye shadow, and lip gloss are all incredibly natural-plus, [that's what I call my style, for your information] and the lip gloss is actually not sticky.  I’m ambivalent about the highlighter and highlighter brush — it’s a foam pad brush, not a bristled brush, so I’ll have to try it for a few days to see how I like it.

But seriously, it’s like the gift that keeps on giving and I am stoked about this amazing deal!  Adorable packaging, great deals, and products that I can and will actually use.  So stoked, in fact,  that H started making fun of me and saying that this was just like getting three fishing lures in a package that looked like pork rinds — only that is not actually a thing.  This is.

 

Five [Awesome] Things I Read This Week (03.16.2013)

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Five Awesome Things I Read This Week copy1.  A response to the now infamous Time magazine article about Sheryl Sandberg, Confidence Woman, by Penelope Trunk:  I had to take a Xanax to read Time magazine this week.  I actually followed a lot of articles on this subject and found them collectively pretty interesting yet mildly distressing.

2.  Daniel Gulati’s Stop Fast-Tracking Your Career over at HBR.  This is very good advice for youngish employees trying to make something happen in their respective fields.  Two key points:  First, stop comparing yourself to similarly aged peers on the internet.  Each of us is on a different path.  Second, stop giving up on everything that isn’t great on the very first day.  It takes time to grow, learn, understand, and flourish.  Life is a marathon.

3.  Two posts on uncertainty in the legal field:  First, Chris Bradley’s Why It’s OK to Tell a Client “I Don’t Know”, over on Lawyerist.  Second, Kat’s How to Do the Work You’re Not Ready For, an advice column at Corporette.  Basically, you aren’t supposed to know everything without even trying, and just because you don’t know everything right now doesn’t mean you can’t do anything.

4.  Jason Boyett’s Jennifer Lawrence, Silver Linings Playbook, and the Less Filtered Life, posted on Deeper Story.  Filters are everywhere — and the more introverted you are (like me!) the more they can change the way you present your public life.  As writers, leaders, and teachers who shape the lives of others, we should look hard at our own filters, and examine whether we are really sharing our true selves with those we love.

5. Mark Goulston’s How to Give a Meaningful Apology.  This honestly broke my heart a little and is tenderly written from a man’s perspective, making it a perfect column for the entire world to ponder.  Seriously, read it right now.

And a little something extra for all you Tennesseans:  Here’s an activity we are TWENTY TIMES better at than California.  Ahahahahaha.

 

Breaking the Mold

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When I first started blogging, it was mostly because I wanted to be like my friend Mary. Mary has an awesome blog and connects with readers from all across the world about issues she cares about: healthy living and weight loss. She posts life stories, records her struggles and successes at the gym, and for a while she even took pictures of the food she ate every single day. I loved following along with Mary’s life and felt like I knew her even better as a reader-friend than just as a friend-friend. I wanted to have the connections and community that Mary had, and I wanted to write.

To be honest, law school was kind of a bummer for my creative side. Don’t misunderstand — I absolutely loved law school. Taking extensive notes about why the law says this or the other and turning those notes into ever-shorter outlines to ingrain the knowledge in my brain is still pretty much one of my favorite things to do (don’t be a hater), but I needed a little free-form writing too.

And so I started a blog (now deceased) to write about what was going on and how things were going. I tried to make it about healthy living (because that’s what I was reading about, so that’s the only kind of blogging I really knew about), but it wasn’t a great fit for me as a writer. My lifestyle was (and still is) not healthy enough to provide sufficient blog content. I try to get a little exercise in and eat plenty of fruits and veggies, but I don’t exactly have a new and exciting gluten-free/low-carb/paleo-friendly recipe or gym routine to share every three days.

To spread my wings a bit, I started following more healthy eating blogs (and less exercise blogs), and then I started falling in love with food blogs in general. Smitten Kitchen, Yes I Want Cake, Dessert for Two . . . there were tons and my Reader was filled with photographs of beautiful meals. I jumped on this bandwagon for a while too: I’m a good cook, and I like trying new recipes, so it seemed like a good fit. I would re-create some fancy recipes I saw online and even created my own recipe once (it still gets a ton of hits, even two years later).

But, just like healthy living before, cooking adorable meals just wasn’t a big enough part of my life to create sufficient content for a successful blog. My life was full of school (now work) and studying (now advising, grocery shopping, avoiding laundry, etc.). There just isn’t enough time for me to live a full life and also purchase expensive groceries and create a fancy meal from scratch every day. I found myself purchasing groceries that went unused, feeling frustrated, and serving my husband a hot-and-steamy previously frozen pizza more often than I should admit. And then, when I did cook something fantastic, I would oftentimes forget to take a photo before we dug in, thus resulting in additional personal disappointment and lack of content.

My blog went dormant for a while (it wasn’t the first time, and probably won’t be the last), and then I stumbled onto Rachel Held Evans and Sarah Bessey and I saw a big part of my secret-inside-self in their writing. I started entering — slowly and carefully — the Christian faith blog community. These voices spoke to me again, in a different way. They spoke of pain and intellectual struggle and civil rights and equality and, most of all, love. For a while, I was only reading faith blogs and not commenting and certainly not writing about faith issues, but after reading so much it just started oozing out.

After a few months, however, I noticed that my voice didn’t exactly fit inside this community, either. That the story I wanted to write (my real life plus how it feels to interact with the hard questions of poverty-relief, justice, equality and how All Of That intersects with faith and politics) couldn’t be fully sustained if I stayed inside the faith blogging community. I needed to make connections across disciplines, because that is how my mind works and how my heart finds freedom. While faith issues are an important piece of who I am as a writer, that tiny piece of the internet world is not enough on its own. What you read is what you write, and I’m just not cut out for a one-subject career.

And so, for the next few weeks, I’m trying a lot of new blogs and searching for a good mix of faith, food, law, social issues, justice, fashion, feminism, otherwise smart and just plain funny. If you have a favorite, leave it in the comments so I can check it out! I’ll be updating my Blogroll at the end of the month to share my new finds with you. If this works out the way I hope it will, I’ll be working toward becoming a better blogger and a better writer. And if it doesn’t, at least I’ll have read some good stories along the way.

Five [Awesome] Things I Read This Week (03.08.13)

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This week I have three faith-in-real-life posts, one on confidence and growing old, and one on professional pros and cons of teleworking.  Check them out:

1.  War Photographer:  Exile Fertility, a guest post by Becca over on D.L. Mayfield’s blog.  This post is just the kind of thing I like to read — an honest, intentional discussion of how our faith changes the way we speak to our neighbors and our responses to injustice.

As a communicator (and who among us isn’t?) I can invite God’s baptism of mercy over my eyes. It’s the mercy that literally changes the way we see, our lenses of judgement are free to fall. When we are in Christ, it’s a whole new world. Jesus said that when our eyes are full of light rather than darkness, so is our whole body. Our words, our songs, our blogs, our conversation, when covered by mercy will still cry out for justice, will still long for God’s kingdom, will still groan with creation in agonizing labour – but we will prophesy the reconciliation of all things. Mercy will find beauty in the face of the enemy, will welcome them to the table; mercy will kneel and wash their feet. Mercy sees our own face in those we have previously labeled: the prostitute, the soccer mom, the creepy man, the tax collector, the Muslim, the Christian, the Burmese refugee, the angry doctor, weeping mother, the rapist, the soldier, the nun.

 2.  Is abolition “biblical”?, a post by Rachel Held Evans.  This is an important dialogue for me — it’s important as persons of faith that we [I] recognize that sometimes our faith has  been used for injustice, admit the limitations and mistakes of those that have come and gone before us, and walk carefully so that we do not confuse the mandates of our faith with the customs of our generation.  I’ve recommended RHE’s posts on this topic before [see Alright, then, I'll go to hell, my favorite post ever], and I’m adding Mark Noll’s The Civil War as a Theological Crisis to my reading list.

. . . I think it’s important to remind ourselves now and then that we’ve been wrong before, and that sometimes it’s not about the number of proof texts we can line up or about the most simplistic reading of the text, but rather some deep, intrinsic sense of right and wrong, some movement of the Spirit, that points us toward truth and to a better understanding of what Scripture really says.

3.  Why Personal Essays are Really Important, by Kate at Eat the Damn Cake.  This is a really moving and inspirational [at least for a blogger like me!] description of (a) what it is like to publish personal essays and (b) how important they are for dialogue and development.  I think having this discussion is important, because bloggers have value.

When I started writing personal essays on the internet, I was half embarrassed, half proud. Even though I grew up in a generation that’s supposedly all about oversharing and facebooking and nonstop blabby social connectedness, I’d still learned that privacy is a virtue, modesty is preferable, and you shouldn’t air your dirty laundry. But I also wanted to talk about things that felt relevant but had been kept quiet. And I wanted to share those things with other women, because I had a sneaking suspicion that I might be facing some of the same challenges that girls and women all over the world deal with, even if those challenges at times felt intensely, well, personal.

4. I’d Rather Feel Old Than Feel Fat, by Lindy West at Jezebel.   Isn’t getting old weirdly awesome?  I mean, I’m still only 27, but isn’t 27 so much better than 24?  I think it is.  I am L-O-V-I-N-G being 27.  Is this true for you as well?

Hating myself for being fat, when I was young, was paralyzing. Feeling terrified of getting older, at my current age, is galvanizing.

5.  It’s About the Work, Not About the Office, an opinion piece by Jennifer Glass for the New York Times.  I’m thinking about this a lot, as I’m working with others to set goals and save money and make employees more productive in an environment where they are losing money instead of getting promoted.  Teleworking is touted by some experts as a savings-focused solution, and others as a waste of limited resources.  What is your opinion on teleworking?

Regardless, employees, creative or not, get older, marry, bear children, watch their parents grow infirm, and want lives outside the workplace. And despite companies’ best efforts to replace family and simulate home life by providing cafeterias, game rooms and concierge services for dry cleaning, most people eventually learn the hard way that companies will not care for you when times are hard; they will cut your pay or forgo your 401(k) match in economic downturns, and will dispose of you when you become ill or disabled. As Robert Frost reminds us, home is the place where they have to take you in. Work is not that place.

Okay, that’s a wrap.  Have a wonderful weekend and don’t forget to set your clock forward an hour on Saturday night.

Oh my gosh, you guys…

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I have something exciting to share! If you’ll remember way back to my “What I learned” post in early December, I committed to a few goals for this space and for myself as a writer. It’s taken a little time, but I’ve hit one of those goals in a big way: I’ve engaged with an online community about something I care deeply about, and as a result I’ve written a guest post on the topic which is posted on a “real” blog. An issues blog, the kind of blog that is deep and moving and serious and the kind of things I want to write about when I “grow up” as a writer.

Seriously, I am so pumped about this and I would love for you to click this link to read it! The series is entitled “Questions of Travel,” and it’s a collection of experts who have gone into “othered” cultures (think: poverty, cultural differences, racial divides, the bad side of globalization, that scary part of town where you won’t go alone, etc.) and talk about the ethical and human rights aspects of this work in a very personal, revealing way. I’ve been learning a TON as I read through the different perspectives, including to be careful how I tell stories and to watch the way I may be “other”-ing people in my own life.

And as you guys know, I’m not an expert on any of these things. . . But I’m kind of an expert on feeling confused about what to do about these things [and other things, while we are at it]. And so that’s what my guest post is all about.

If you have a story to tell where you’ve experienced “other”-ing (on the giving or the receiving ends of this), or if you have ideas for the way we should be talking about these issues, feel free to leave a comment on that page or right here. Even if your vantage point for missional living is different from J.R.’s (or mine), I hope you share my belief that we are doing something right when we talk about respecting others as we try to better our world community.

Thanks for your support as I out myself with my “real” name and my open [often confused] heart.

I’m hearing that the link isn’t working, and I’m trying to find out what is happening here. So sorry! For me, http://loveiswhatyoudo.com/2013/02/25/finding-the-right-questions-guest-post-by-mary-beth-pavlik/ is working fine.

Five [Awesome] Things I Read This Week

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Numero Uno:  Stephanie Coontz’s Why Gender Equality Stalled.  If women make less than men, do women really have a choice not to stay home and raise their children?  Is it really a choice at all? 

Numero Dos:  Daniel Gulati’s Your Credentials are Holding You Back.  Remember those discussions of “sunk costs” in Economics 101?  Why you don’t have to keep watching a bad movie just because you paid eleven dollars to see it?  Try applying that theory to the reason you are staying at your current job. 

Number Three:  Addie Zierman’s An Open Letter to the Church: How to Love the Cynics.  I’m taking a break from faith blogs for the next few days but, before I made that decision, this one really stuck out to me. 

Number Four:  Karen K. Harris at the Shriver Brief’s post, Manipulating Overdrafts is Perfectly Legal?  I read this and was angry, and then I started writing something angry about it.  But, after doing a bit of research, I read that it was a banking standard practice to credit deposits in a day before deducting withdrawals from the same day, regardless of the time, and that in a similar vein banks claim to deduct large payments before small ones to ensure that important payments (like mortgages) go through, and that lesser important payments (like coffee from a coffee stand) are the ones that bounce.  So now I’m not sure if I’m angry anymore.  I might still be angry.  I think probably yes, but in a balanced way. 

Numero Five:  Kate at Eat the Damn Cake’s post, Why Aren’t We Allowed to Think We’re Pretty.  Ha.  There are some pretty hilarious quotes in this one.  Anne Hathaway, you are gorgeous.  Deal with it.  And also, seriously: I AM PRETTY.  And so are you.  Beautiful, in fact. 

Okay, I’m off to happy hour.  Have a fantastic weekend, and stay tuned:  a LOT of exciting things are happening around here next week, including a link to my very first guest post on MONDAY and a #femfest series Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday.  It’s going to be awesome.

Valentine’s Day festivities!!

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Okay, first of all: it’s totally okay if you hate Valentine’s Day or think it is wicked cheesy or want to talk about beheadings or wear all black. Because I feel you guys on this one.

But seriously? This is my best valentine’s day [and weekend] yet:

1. Space Jam valentines from the in-laws;

2. Vegan oatmeal cookies at work;

3. 30 red and white tulips!!!!! (My absolute favorite);

4. A new necklace and bracelet from a cool new website;

5. Silver Diner;

6. Bruce WILLIS!!! I love you. We’re attending the 7:45 showing;

7. Nick Offerman tomorrow night;

8. Casino Night in fancy dresses and with cocktails and tiny crab cakes on Saturday night.

I mean, seriously.

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